I accept myself for who I am, although I’m still trying to figure some parts of me out.
Do you comprehend?
Personality-wise, I accept myself for who I am. I can’t change myself and I will not do so for others. You see, I accept the fact that I am bluntly honest. I’m secure in my emotions that my enemy is myself. No one can cause a mental strife than myself. Now, there are a few people that I can count on one hand that can cause a chink in my armour. But, other than that, I have a “it’s not my problem,” “I don’t care” vibe with everyone else. I think the only reason those people can cause a chink is because I actually care about what they say or think.
My logic is: People have folks in their life that are sugar-coating, omitting truths, and telling white lies to them everyday. When the truth is said, they are either in denial or offended.
You should be tactful? Change the way how you say things?
Why? Changing how I state my opinion to spare your feelings, would no different than a person who sugar-coats. I would like people to be honest with me. As ny brother once told me, “Only you are in control of your emotions. Nobody has the power to make you feel any way except you.” I agree with wholeheartedly.
Now, I know that I can be mean. I’m usually pushed to that limit, so it’s a rare occurrence. However, I’m never intentionally mean when stating my opinion. I have a set personality. I don’t get a kick out of making someone feel miserable. What do I benefit from that? Nothing. I’m not a narcissist.
There’s a big difference in being honest and being a jerk. When I’m being blunt or straightforward, I’m not being nasty about it. Although, some people take it that way. I’ve had people tell me that I’m mean. That I’m not a nice person. That I’m offensive. All because I chose not to lie. Because I chose to be honest.
You know what? That’s ok. People are entitled to their opinions. It’s not my job to change people’s perception of me. I’m not running for office. I’m the same way everywhere I go, whomever I am around, and whatever the age.
If you want to think that in mean, fine. Whatever helps you sleep at night. Just remember, I cannot control your emotions. I cannot make you feel any type of way. Be emotionally secure with yourself. People’s opinions don’t have power to affect you UNLESS you let it affect you.